You are between a rock and a hard place, and I have to tell you that in both situations...unless you marry your friend, you are going to loose him! Now that the feelings have elevated beyond friendship on both parts, it isn't ever going to be the same.
I once was in love with two guys...my best friend, and my boyfriend. The best friend had EVERYTHING to offer, he was cute, flirty, charming, fun, adventurous, caring, many more...but the best was that we both knew eachother better than anyone else did.
The boyfriend was cute (not as cute), quiet, caring, loving, and most of all had the same ';life plan'; as I did.
One night I was helping the best friend close his dad's store (as I did many nights) and we decided to go for a motorcycle ride (which I loved because I got to hold on tight) and when we came back we started messing around (in a clean not making out sort of way.) He took my keys, we flirted, talked, and had alot of fun. When he got on his bike (about 2:30 or 3 in the morning) to leave, I walked over to tell him goodnight. Long story short we ended up having the kiss of my life. It was amazing! AFterwards we knew we had crossed the line. We left saying we needed to think about what just happened and that we would talk about it. We were both looking at leaving for the same college 650 miles away in a matter of 2 weeks or less. We never really did get the chance to talk about it. Life got busy, college came, we saw eachother here and there, we ended up getting engaged (me to my boyfriend, and him to some girl who was totally not right for him). The last time I saw him was when I pined his rose on his lapel as the usher at my wedding. We've never spoke or seen eachother since that day.
Resolve your feelings for one of them. If you truely love your best friend, give it a try, or you may spend the rest of your life wishing you had!I need some advice here I'm in love with two guys?
I'd take the guy who wants to marry you. That is a big step for guys. Guys tend to fall hard for girls. My bet is that your best friend just wants to be friends and has no deep feeling for you.
The truth is that relationships are about companionship. The men I know and admire are decisive, goal setters, and loyal. When they love their women there is no half stepping.
You know these two. Who is going to treat you right? Who is going to be there for the long haul? Which one knows what he wants?
The trouble is that I doubt that you know what you want. You don't seem to be anchored. I don't want to sound mean but you don't want to create heartache for the guy who proposed. If you have to turn him down then make it clear to the guy that you reject him. He'll hate you for it now but he will appreciate you later when he find someone who genuinely cares for him.
Give him the ';I love you like a friend'; routine. It works every time.
make them fight, winner gets you a fight to the death... well maybe not that hardcore. maybe a few bit ch slaps to each other tand the first to cry loses.
whatever you do, do not live with either of them or anyone for that matter. Don't lose your independance. Why did you and your boyfriend break up? did he cheat on you? I hope that's not the reason but if it is, break up with him permanently. Once a cheater always a cheater, that's a fact. Considering you and your BF have been on again off again, and he wants to marry you; I would be cautious. I wouldn't rush into anything. Just watch it and see what happens. You should be with whoever treats you better. Always pick someone who caters to YOU. But don't live with either unless you're married :-) Good Luck.
and don't listen to that person who said friends with benefits. That will get you even more confused.
well let me c where do i want to start? ummm, well seeing how i know who ur talking about and seeing how i know a lil bit about both of them and some things about u i think that i might be of some help to u here, but idk.
hon, this is a really tough one...i'd be so confused also and can understand in a way,,,i'm sorry you are going through this...you are the only one that can make the ultimate dissition but maybe since ';love is blind'; maybe one of your older wiser friends or someone you trust could kind of give you thier opinion on which one is the stronger, better guy for ya...and also,,,you could get along with both, but whihc one CAN';T you live without? htink about it...
Friends with Benefits works. Do them both
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