Guys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?

i'm in this wonderful relationship with a guy who loves me dearly. however we have been through the worst and best times. but we made it. right now i'm waitin to see if he is goin to marry me because he proposed sometime back and has not yet givin me a date nor a ring.


there are little things though that i may be reading too much into like him chattin with certain ppl however i dont want to make too much of it. what you think i should do i DONT want to nag i want to remain cool becuasei know he loves me. but u know we women can be impatient.


as a guy what do you recommend i do? should i just leave him let him come around on his own timing. stop naggin or bring u things


tell me as guys what you all would like from a woman in my position. its been 9 monthGuys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
I'm not a guy but I found some really great advice for this topic on Wiki-How...





';Don't assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to reevaluate the direction of your relationship. Remember, great romances are not built on bargaining and ultimatums - in the best marriages the man is the one initiating conversations about marriage. Sometimes allowing a man to lead the direction of a relationship is in-line with your desires. Try it, you'll like it.';





';Remember that some men are perfectly willing to date women they really like but don't see as ';marriage material.'; If, after six months to a year, you still haven't heard him refer to his future plans for marriage or family (with or without you) you may need to ask, ';What qualities do you look for in someone you see yourself committing to?'; If he mentions qualities he's complimented you on, take it as a good sign. If his compliments are largely related to sex, it probably is not.';








';If you feel the need to have a serious talk, reconsider the approach. Instead of coming at him with a serious tone (which will bring up his innate fear of pressure for commitment), be upbeat and positive. ';I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?';Guys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
should wait it out a little longer before you say something. 9 months isn't that long. maybe at 12 months you should give him hints. I don't know, i could be wrong
If you two have made it through that much, you better believe he will marry you.
I would approach him and tell him you want a committed date because you want to gte married for sure.
I don't really think hinting at things is very productive. i like the suggestion that you just come out and ask for a date. If you don't want to be a nag then offer him an ';out';. Like ';hey babe, I know we talked about marriage a while ago. If you want an extended engagement that's fine, or if your not sure anymore - but let me know where we stand so I'm not on the edge of my seat. It won't change anything we have now.'; or something like that. Open and honest communication is the first test of compatibility. Good luck and congrats (even if you're not getting hitched you do have a good thing going) !
I know you said guys, but I'm going to answer anyway.





If the guy proposes without a ring AND without a date, then he's not serious. He wants you around for sure, but he also wants to keep his options open.





If you are having doubts about how committed he is to you, then you are probably on target. If he's chatting and texting ';certain ppl'; as you say, then he's not ready to settle down with you.





One big clue that you already know the answer here is that you didn't ask the GIRLS. You know what kinda answers you'd be getting and you are still in a bit of denial. My suggestion is to start backing off and making him work for it. If he doesn't start chasing the carrot you are holding out for him, then walk away.