Am I wrong?!?! Please I need advice from both girls and guys! ?

So my bf and I have been dating for 2 years now and since then we've been attached at the hip. I stopped partying and hanging out with friends since we became a couple, because not only does he not like me drinking (especially if he's not there) he also doesn't like me to go hang with friends when he's home. He moved in with me pretty early (after 3 months of dating ) and it was great the first year and half...but ever since then I just feel suffocated not being able to go out and have fun. I'm not the promiscuous type nor would I ever cheat on the one I'm dating b/c I could never fathom being able to crush them like that. Honestly if I fell for someone else, the first thing I would do is end the relationship I'm in. Somehow he always makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong though, as in when I want to go hang out with people for awhile...like go to a movie or out to eat, he'll ask me questions and it feels like an interrogation. He'll call me a ';lesbian'; if I go hang out with girls but then say he's just ';joking';, I can never hang out with other guys cuz he'd **** a brick and start a huge argument. And when I'm with him and a friend or family member texts me, he'll ask ';who ya texting';. I've just gotten sick of it! Feeling guilty for things I shouldn't be feeling guilty for all the time is tiring... well I went out to a softball game my work was having this past Sunday and they wanted to go out afterwards (it was about 8pm by then) and I already forshadowed a fight with my bf, but regardless I went because everyone wanted me too (and I did too inside). I texted my bf what I was up too and about an hour after hanging out with my work friends having an amazing time and laughing harder than I have in months, he started texting me asking when I'm coming home, then started calling me. Well other people at work started noticing how ridiculously insecure he was being and took my phone away texting him that I won't be home anytime soon and answering his phone calls. Well I finally got home and ofcourse he wanted to talk then and there and he started saying that I treat him like **** and making me feel bad, even though everyone I work with were telling me that I've done nothing wrong hanging out with friends and enjoying myself. So I finally told him I needed space for myself and he said ';that means u don't love me anymore'; and that's nothing what I meant, and explained to him that I feel like he's suffocating me and all I want is my own space but I still love him and want to continue the relationship then told him that asking for space doesn't mean I'm going to stop loving him. So what I'm trying to ask (sorry for it being too long) is if I'm wrong about asking for my space?Am I wrong?!?! Please I need advice from both girls and guys! ?
No, you are not wrong at all. He can't expect you to drop everything and everyone in your life and just focus on him. It's not fair. You're allowed to have friends and family and you're allowed to enjoy spending time with them, without or without him there. He is a very big part of your life, but he needs to understand that he is not the only part. You can't be with each other 24/7. He should go out with his friends and family sometimes as well. All you can do is to talk to him about it and as lightly as possible explain how you're feeling, and make him understand that you DO still love him. Ask him what it is that makes him so upset and uncomfortable. Is it that he thinks you're going to cheat on him? That he doesn't want to be lonely at home while you're out having fun? Etc etc. And then you can work to a solution together. And if that doesn't work and you're desperate, perhaps get professional help?





Also, I can sort of understand his behaviour. I tend to be quiet and shy most of the time and I don't really enjoy going out all that much, so my boyfriend goes out with his friends without me sometimes. I get a bit upset because I know I could be out with him but I'm just not that kind of person , and I get too shy if you know what I mean. He could be like that? Maybe upset with himself that he can't go out and have fun like you can? I dunno :) Talk to him.Am I wrong?!?! Please I need advice from both girls and guys! ?
I don't think you are wrong. Everyone needs friends. If you completely isolate your friends you will be miserable. If your BF loves you he shouldn't want you to be miserable. I know for a fact that there are insecure men in the world and it sounds like he may be one of them. From personal experience I can tell you that you need to have a serious talk with him. He needs to understand that your wanting to hang with friends is no reflection on your feelings for him and that contact outside the relationship is very healthy on both parts. Encourage him to go hang with his friends when you are with yours. Make it a once a week ordeal. A night to hang with friends and that way you are both out, having fun, with someone other than each other.
He should move out. He is way too possessive and insecure for you. He is doing what is called transference of guilt when he tells you that you hurt his feelings, etc. By that I mean that he is trying to make you feel guilty for his insecurities. That is his problem to overcome. He needs to grow up. Don't let your life pass by because you are living under someone else's standards and rules. Remember, people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Trust is primary in a relationship and he doesn't seem to have any trust in you. Move on, enjoy your life and you will meet the right person. Good luck!
Not at all, btw did you try to get him to join the party w your friends ? If he wont at least try to make friends w your friends - what are you going to do for the rest of your life - just sit w him ? A good relationship is adding friends - not cutting yourselves off.
that was always going to happen





my bf was like that, and at 1st it dint bother me, then i wanted space, he wanted to know everything i was doing etc





i told him it stops or wer over, hes fine now
NO one wants a relationship in which he/she is beig controlled.....its probably because he feels you dont love him anymore..or somehow magic of love has gone..resassure him that you love him...tell him 3-4 times a day that you love him....adn tell him you dont like to be controlled......and if it doesnt fixes it up....tell him to go to hell...tell him that you have been hurt,,,,and if he realises..he will definnitely come back and say sorry....