Guys and girls... need your help...advice???

Guys does a girl's insecurities push you away and make u bored or tired of the relationship and resent your girlfriend? and why? Does it hurt when your girl seems to not trust you?





And girls how do u make yourself feel secure when your guy always assures you that he wont cheat on you or hurt you.. in my heart i know he wont cheat on me and he hasn't given me a reason to doubt him... but my mind is all over the place! he is very good looking and gets attention from women but he tells them he's taken. Maybe i should have more self esteem? How do i that! I feel like im goin crazy, i want to focus on more important things then worry about who looks at him or talks to him. And he's starting a new job soon, and im worried about which women will be there if they will be prettier than me, will he be attracted to them, will they talk to him etc. I dont think im bad lookin, if u want i can post a pic? I love him i dont want to mess it up coz of my insecurities. Please help!





Thank u!


SamoGuys and girls... need your help...advice???
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you need to check that man out really really make sure.





Like the old saying your pretty wife is not your wife its your neighbors.





Too good looking old habits die young just be care ful





my question





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkvqQCEv8fCqunoCdWMaP9Tsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080709223634AAYjqncGuys and girls... need your help...advice???
Hey, I felt the exact same way a few years ago, i can tell you it does annoy some guys having to reassure their girlfriends that they are pretty, you should know you are in their opinions but i know we do like to hear it. Dont worry i can almost guarantee he doesnt even look at other girls or think about them. My parents always reassured me that it would be fine and it was. I was never very confident about my looks but if your boyfriend is with you he obviously thinks you are perfect and pretty.
Insecurities are annoying because after awhile it just gets really annoying to hear when you keep complaining about it. Also, we are with you for who you are so we like you for your insecurities too.





It's sad when girls don't trust you, it doesn't hurt me, but it could hurt guys, it just annoys me.
Think to yourself, is he going to cheat on me? If it is a solid maybe keep an eye on him, but don't snoop he might think that you don't trust him, and that could be bad. If he is getting a job soon, you should probably work with him. Maybe get your friends to keep an eye on him. But make sure it isn't too obvious like I said. I hope you two will be happy together! ;D
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i have had trust issues from things that have happened in my past.. at first my boyfriend thought that i couldnt trust him and it sort of hurt him because he felt like we could be honest.. open.. and not hold anything back from each other.. but after he learned why i was the way i was he realized and it was ok.. and because he realized it broke my trust issues and now i can tell him anything
Great name btw. Sam. Well to the question....in my past relationships, my girlfriends insecurities or distrust truthfully makes me feel horrible, if you guys have been going out for a long period then I would say it would be more heartrenching for the guy. But of course, also, it matters on the guy.
You just need to trust him. If he loves you as well then it should not worry you that he gets attention from other women. It sounds like he's a good guy if he tells other women he's taken. You just need to have more faith in him though.
First of all


It sucks when the girl you like doesnt trust you the same way you trust her.


Well atleast i feel like if im doing something wrong. And also theirs the, Maybe she can't trust me the same way i trust her thing. Which Causes confussion..and leads to depression.
if hes that popular and your that worried about him you should probably just dump him and find a person whose not that good looking as you describe cause if hes got that much attention from other women then he'll have no problem cheating and lying about it.
i 100% feel your pain!








i'm going through the same , but finally i started listening to my heart .





tell him why you are insicure; it helps


and its not him that you dont thrust its other girls
Honestly, I have full trust in a guy until he gives me reason not to. I don't think its fair to accuse someone of something without reason.
post a pic. In fact, I just posted a pic of myself. If you answer my question, I'll answer yours.








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Listen to your heart!
yea i hate like it annoys me when my gf is insecured
yea it hurts and it makes us not trust them
knowing that ur aware with the fact


that ur insecurities might mess up ur relationship,


somehow give me the insights,


that you are an open minded individual.


open with the possibilities that might occur,


then, u should know darn well


that you must build a complete trust to ur boyfriend,


jealousy and doubts, got no place in a good relationship.


if u love him enough,


you gotta trust him enough.


bare in mind, that u both need to grow,


as ur relationship does.


don't try to manipulate his life,


for u wouldn't want him to do that with urs.


guide him,remind him,


and make him feel how much u love him...


and he is worthy of ur trust.


in return he'll be trustworthy...


hope u 2 will keep on gettin'stronger.


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yes to your first question. A girl I was with basically told me that she felt I was not committed to her because some of my friends are girls. It completely turned me off because it seemed that she didnt trust me and thought that I was only in the relationship for the physical aspect, which totally embarrassed me when she told me that was what she thought, and so I was completely done, didnt even feel bad about ending things because it was so untrue and irrational.





I resented the way she felt because, very simply, once I knew she didnt trust me that was that, and her fears were completely off base but I couldnt say anything to change them.
I dont know how old you are, i am early 20's and i went through the same thing. i think you need to make sure you as an individual is as happy as can be before getting into any kind of serious relationship. you should have that confidence alone with out a man first. and if you have it then you will be able to look at these situations with CONFIDENCE and be like ';ha, nice try *********.e.s but he is mine and he knows he has the best and aint looking else were.'; A guy wants a girl to be confident about herself, if not that is all he is going to dwell on. oh did i say she looked good b4 she left or whatever. pretty soon he will just start saying crap just to make u feel good that day. if u felt good about yourself anyway u would be so much happier as a couple and the compliments when come naturally. he of course is always thinking he's got the finest chick on the block or he wouldnt be with you, but you dont want him to start to feel like it is a chore to make u feel good about yourself, then u will be alone and worse off. look at it this way, you obviously are an awsome woman whether it is inside or out...and take it as a compliment when he is checked out. own it lol that is yours and they want it and cant have it. next time you see somebody checking him out in public go ahead and show some pda, the girl checking him out will be shocked and i guarantee it will boost your confidence. dont get crazy processive but make sure they know he is yours. it'll make u feel good. like hahaha i am all that because i have the best man around! so there! ok so that was a little childish but i hope u get what i am saying. good luck.
okay well, i feel the same way about my boyfriend as well. been feelin like that for over a year now, and he gets hit on by loads of how shall i say... curvy girls. the whole new job thing...hahaha~ i had so many problems with him changing from this job to that getting to be friends with this girl and those. i express to him how i feel...that im really annoyed at the situation but tell him that i trust him with all my heart. i even threatened a couple of girls but he said he didn't mind. if a guy asks what's there to worry about rather then agree with ur conditions then there is something to worry about. i ask him from time to time if he minds that im so overprotective over him. he says there's no problem being overprotective over the one you love because if they didn't care they wouldnt be ';insecure';. there's no shame on worrying about whether hes gettin hit on or not, its natural. everyone does it! if you're doing well with him a simple thing like that shouldn't mess up the relationship. hope this helped :p