Guys and girls- I need relationship advice?

So for Vday my serious bf went all out and spoiled me. He got me roses, diamond earrings, and took me out to a really nice dinner. I of course wanted to do something for him so I bought lingerie.. and you get the drift.. but then shortly after he told me about the male version of Vday which is March 14th- steak and bj day. I looked it up and sure enough it is a real day but obviously not very well known. We kind of joked about it and I just forgot about it.





Yesterday was March 14th and we had plans to hang out. I took him out for dinner and then we went back to his place and watched a movie. We were cuddling and he seemed upset so I asked him what was wrong.. he just sighs and tells me that he was kind of disappointed because he had high expectations for the day. I was confused and then he brought of up steak and bj day... I was really annoyed and hurt. The fact that he expected it really bothered me. It also bothered me that apparently me taking him out to dinner and just hanging out with me wasn't enough. Then I started to feel guilty.. like a good gf would have known to celebrate this ';fake'; holiday because he went all out on v-day.





So i'm torn between being mad at him and feeling really bad. Any input?? Sorry it's so long.Guys and girls- I need relationship advice?
When a guy expects something, it always gets on my nerves. I hate being expected to do something, especially if I do it anyways, and just don't want to at the time. I would be annoyed. I understand how you feel, I would be hurt too! You told him you didn't expect anything for Valentines Day, so and he did it anyways, that was his decision. I think you should be slightly annoyed, but don't feel bad. Don't do something you don't want to do just cause someone else expects it. Personally I think it was kind of rude of your boyfriend to say he was disappointed after you took him out to dinner!





xx-ShelbyGuys and girls- I need relationship advice?
I think really that there is a whole load of expectations on the man to do all the wooing and making all the grand gestures.





It wasn't the actual ';steak and bj'; thing, but the fact that you had not picked up the fact that he wanted you to do something nice for him- you left him feeling unappreciated.
Dont be mad and dont be upset with him. He has just over reacted i guess.


You can just say sorry. Tell him that you wanted to spend lovey time with him and wanted to make him feel special by taking him out and stuff. But cause he didnt appreciate any of it....that made you turn off. Put it back on him.





note : i never knew about this day.





Regards From India
Jeez, suck his dick already, thats what he wants.
It's not your fault...you didn't know.
Don't feel bad or be mad at him. He was doing the whole girl thing by hinting it to you on V-day hoping you would catch on and you thought nothing of it.





That isn't a bad thing. He shouldn't have been expecting it.





That is like expecting gifts on your birthday.


Even if you did remember you shouldn't be obligated to give him a bj just because of that day..





It was kind of rude of him to expect that from you in a sense..


He sould have just enjoyed the time you had together.
I've never heard of that holiday, and glad my husband hasn't either! No, seriously. Maybe he was joking. But look at it from his point of view. Not to say he is right or wrong. On V-day, you expect certain things to be done, and presents to be bought. Right? Well, he is just feeling the same way about this day. I wouldn't be hurt about it. If you weren't good enough to be with, he wouldn't be with you. I would just let it go. Guys are a lot like us. But instead of diamonds and chocolate, they like steak and bj's! Be glad you don't have bigger problems than a fake holiday!
I'd never expect anything from my girlfriend. I'd let her surprise me. Not only that, if spending time with you isn't enough for him that shows that he probably doesn't value you for who you are. I enjoy just being with the girl I love, regardless for what we do or don't do. If he wants steak and a bj from you and says that he was disappointed because you didn't meet his expectations that's really low. He should be happy he got to spend time with you period. When that happens, you know you have someone who loves you for you. If I were you, I'd break up, especially if he expects sex. Don't feel guilty, it's his fault. Not yours. He shouldn't expect anything from you and he should be happy with whatever you do for him, because you did it out of love.
Don't feel bad. It's a scientific statement that guys have extremely higher sex drives than girls due to chemicals and testosterone. Since he told you about the male V-day, he was anticipating some action. Imagine that it was the other way around-that the male version of V-day was well known and you had told your boyfriend about the female version of jewelry, dinner, %26amp; just simply romance. Wouldn't you except him to give you that after he told you about it? I know I would. But guys and girls are typically wired differently. Their idea of romance is sex (which is understandable) and our idea of romance is simply a cozy night of snuggling and whatnot. If he say, had sex with you, you would be glad about that but in all reality, you as well as I would be disappointed that you didn't get a diamond necklace or whatever. It's okay that that happened. But what you should do is invite him over and tell him you're going to ';make it up to him';.
dont worry about the length(:


mmm, no offense to you OR your boyfriend. but steak and bj day? that just seems kinda.. preverted. but thats just my opinion, if i were you the first thing i would do is talk to him, tell him that you had forgotten about the date, but that you believed that just spending time with you should be enough, instead of a silly bj, ask him if thats what he really wants. and that you think that a true relationship should include love, and the desire to just spend time with eachother, and ocassionally have sex and etc. etc. but in conclusion, there is not much reason to be mad, hes a guy, and he obviously thought that your joking around about the day was a yes to the proposal, so he got his hopes up. there is no reason to be mad at him, so when you DO talk to him, dont say it in a angry way, say it in a nice kind, gentle way, and tell him that a true relationship doesnt have to do with only sex. tell him that you appreciat his exccelent vday dinner, and that you will do your best to go allout on his birthday or whatever.. but also include that the best present of vday was spending time with him, and say that that is the TRUE meaning of a relationship (cherishing the time you have together) i know my answer is long, but i hope it helped. and love? i know from EXPERIENCE.
So He made up a fake holiday* just to get what he wants from you.That's so very unfair to you.He should really think of your feelings in this.It was a very nice wonderful day .an ya really did amazing with every thing.I really hope that he thinks of your needs also.us woman do a lot to make are men happy.Daily


here are a few things I do for my man daily





make his coffee


wash clothing


clean out truck


get cigs


wake him for work


keep the kids quiet so he can sleep
My husband tells me it's steak and bj day at least twice a week - It's just a joke!





If he wants a bj, he needs to initiate the physical contact, and ask for it like any other normal guy. Instead he's mad at you? What a wuss. Tell that big baby that it takes 2 to tango, and if he wants to mess around, he needs to let you know and not just be at you for not being psychic.





I've been with my husband 7 years, and I don't go around offering up bjs. But if he wants one enough to ask for it, well, you know.
i know about it and it's actually called white day. what happens is v-day is really the day when girls give gifts to their guys and on march 14 white day, if the guy likes them then they give them something too. its celebrated in japan but other countries i'm not sure about those. me and my gf used to do it too because one year we would say okay ill take v-day this year and you can return it to me on white day and then next year it'll be vice versa. but when i told this to my bf he was like . . . wait what? lets just do it the american way okay?
Steak and a BJ day is a joke holiday. It is known, but not actually expected to be celebrated (depending on your sense of humor). You celebrated Vday with him. He got you gifts and you got him gifts. He must have misunderstood what the holiday is when he heard about it, and actually expected it to happen.





It's not your fault. He misunderstood the expectations and you had no reason to actually be expected to follow through on a joke holiday he mentioned in passing.
Typical dude. He wanted a BJ...Is it not obvious? Do you know what a BJ is? He kept bringing it up so you would get the hint. I guess you didn't. Don't worry about it honey. Guys are mean sometimes (This is the nicest way I can say it) He is thinking with his ';other head'; ...If you don't understand any of this than you might be too young to care about it anyways.
Welcome to men's world. Every holiday is made up, but I would expect that if he didn't do these things for you on Valentine's Day you would've had a problem with him. Both holidays are idiotic, but just as you most likely expected him to do something on V-Day then why can't he expect something. If he said ';just hanging out with me wasn't enough'; on V-Day, everyone would be calling him an insensitive jerk.





I don't think the situation is that big of a deal, but it is unfair double standard for men.