Guys-20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?

Okay theres this complicated guy- moody/kind-hearted. Old school. emotional baggage from past relationships. Hides his feelings. Bit of a heartbreaker . He's older


He's a fam friend. Since last year we got really close. Ppl said he liked me alot- but since he didnt openly ask me out- i blocked it. i was scared i was falling for him ( first time) and blocked him and told someone i would never date him cos of his past and his way with women.( i was in denial) He got hurt when he heard that. I know. The gap bet us widened. Huge now we hardly ever speak besides hi and walk past. It works both ways. I pushed him into the arms of another girl ( they not dating) i think im may be losing him for good. I need to move on.but i think the ONLY way i can do this is to talk to him. Havnt spoken to him in 3 months . i think he hates me after what i said.. We never spke about it- except emailGuys-20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
Just be open and honest with him I know I appreciate it when women are upfront and honest and even if he doesn;t feel the same way about you I am sure he will not say anything rude.Guys-20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
My advice would be to tell him all u really want to... Dont leave anything to regret about later. You can be sure he's not coming back 4 u hollywood style. But im sure he'll try to understand......
no, your not being over assertive. one of you should be and you don't want to look back and be saying your ';should've/could've/would've's'; about the situation. talk to him face-to face and tell him how you feel and get everything off your chest. you'll feel better afterwords. now, be prepared for what he has to say and see where his minds at. what was so bad about his past that turned you away? people can change. he might not be the same person he was then now. if you want a guy to open up to you, we have to trust you and it has to be face-to-face. good luck!





hope this helps
it is so easy to talk to a guy, i dont get why girls cant do it. guys are simple minded and dont want games. (yes i am a guy) when you talk to him be up front clear and present in a nice manner. tell him out right ';i feel bad about what i said that day; i have been thinking about it'; stuff like that. when you ask a question give some information before the question. ';you know i liked you then but felt like you didnt like me, did you?'; it is that easy. dont play the game were ask one thing and then you pick apart his answer, how he said, his body language, ect. just keep everything simple. have you heard a guy on the phone with another guy? this is how it goes:


Caller 1: ';what are doing?';


Caller 2: ';hanging out at (place) want to come down?';


Caller 1: ';be there in ten';





end of conversation. keep it that simple. just ask him what you want to know and tell him what you want to tell him
well, let me start off by saying YES, you're right we (as guys) don't really like talking about things like that, but if a girl brings it up then we most likely will talk about it.


鈥?Here's the other thing, i think that you SHOULD tell him, because you're gonna go the rest of your life thinking ';what if...'; so it's better to know and find out what CAN happened, instead of 'what COULD OF happened' however remember everything has its consequences, what i mean is that there is the possibility of him saying that he never liked you, he might say that he doesn't like you, so what you have to do is prepare yourself mentally, and don't start crying, just ask him in a casual way, don't do the whole ';okay, okay, there's something i HAVE to ask you'; cause right away we'll get like all weird, and it's gonna cause the mood to get all awkward.


鈥?so i think you should ask him, and if he says ';no'; then be like ';ohh, i was just asking'; and move one to the next topic. but then again, what if he says ';YES'; what happens next, so you got to be prepared too. well hope i was able to help, good luck.