Question for guys and girls! I really need advice pleasse help!!!?

I'm really shy.


I'll go an entire period (50 minutes) without saying anything to anyone.


I spend lunch in the restroom stall because I don't want to be in the and sit alone every day.


that's embarassing and it's hard to be in the middle of a crowd of friends/boyfriends and girlfriends while they're laughing and joking.


anyway, I confided in a teacher and asked her for advice.


she told me I could stay in her room during lunch.


she's head of drama club and two girls from her drama class came by.


I don't remember exactley what happen but basically the teacher said she'd be in her room if they needed something.


they asked her why she was staying in her room and she answered them that there was a girl who was really shy and she had been spending restroom in the restroom so the teacher let her stay in her room.


they said ';oh well she can eat lunch with us';


so I showed up and the teacher surpsied me and was like ';yeah, they're waiting for you in the cafeteria.';Question for guys and girls! I really need advice pleasse help!!!?
Heyy! Well actually I exactly know how you feel. I was in my lunch table sitting with my friends and all of a sudden a teacher comes and tells us that she has a new friend. This boy who sat like a couple of tables away was being bullied by the people around him, but the teacher was just trying to be nice and help the kid out. When he went to sit at our table I noticed how the rest of my friends were trying to introduce themselves to him, but they were being pushy and the kid felt uncomfortable. I also welcomed him, but I just felt like you know he probably thinks that we kinda have to do this, but I really didnt want him to feel this way. So in my opinion is try to be more friendly and socialize with the people around you or talk to them. Im sure all they could say back is probably not a response at all. If you truly are yourself and stand up for what you believe Im sure you'll be fine. From wat you've written your not shy to me at all, your expressing your feelings and thats cool. Im a junior at my school and Im the junior president of the Drama Club and jsut because ur in it dosn't mean you can talk to other people or get to know those who are in other groups. Im in marching band and all this music stuff and you know wat I talk to ppl who are football players, cheerleaders or the people that truly stand out in the grade. So my advice for you is just be yourself and talk to some people, next time you see someone in the hallway say hi, or you know maybe in a class u can start by socializing more, and think about it, imagine if your a senior in high school and your lonely and dont have friends and is missing out on being with all the people in your grades for the past yrs. you probably wouldn't want to ask yourself what if? questions. So I really hope this advice helped or any of these words make sense, but I really tried.Question for guys and girls! I really need advice pleasse help!!!?
I think you have what they call social anxiety. Its treatable.
well they were probbably stuck up but he you need to let your guard down your way to shy and i thought i was shy.. you need to get mover it and start having a life.. talk to ppl somebody is bound to like you but you actually have to talk to ppl be4 that can happen
it sounds like you are afraid of being judged but you are judging people when you don't give them a chance to get to know you and assume they don't want you there. High school is hard and when your shy it's even worse. You can try to say hi in passing to a few people and smile if someone looks at you maybe if you give someone a chance they might be friends with you...good luck
There's nothing to hate about. It's all about communication, and it may be hard to accept that in order to transform from being ';stuck in the restroom'; to ';people meeting you all the time';, you may need to accept the fact that when people hate you, they may have a reason, and let them decide of what they think of you. Learn to accept that there are people who may hate you, and there is actually no reason to hate people.





If there is anything to hate, say the reason/s in a calm, reasonable manner, and let the person you hate to talk to realize what he or she can do better to improve himself or herself.
U can't expect to receive something if u don't give something back!





Every relationship, be it with friendship, family or with bf-gf thing, it goes two-ways....





LOVE .....so u will be loved.....





BE FRIENDLY .....so someone will be friendly to u.....





Be open, be true..... someone will definitely like u!





It's time to get out of ur shell!!





And about the B*I*A*T*C*H .... don't waste ur time thinking about her, it won't do u anything good .





Good luck girl!!
I know why you are in the drama club so that you can be less shy right? I advise you to look for someone with common interest with you. I have half the similar experience as you had. Being shy procrastinates the opportunity thus, your time is wasted. If you can't help it, go to a guidance counselor to help you.
Being shy is nothing to be ashamed of. A lot of people are shy. Just be yourself. Find a crowd or friends that you fit in with. Be friendly and try to over come being as shy as you are. You'll be surprised as to how quickly you find your place. Good luck.
Holy crap! I thought I was shy at that age.


Here's a Q: for you: are you miserable? I'm guessing you are, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this A: So, you're damned if you do (hide) and you're damned if you don't. The difference is hiding will get you nowhere, and trying to mingle will lead you to a better place. Do this: mingle, disregard what everybody else thinks, say whatever you think. Sure, there will be some (shallow) people who will probably hate and ridicule you, but there will be some who will think you're pretty cool. You need at least one friend, or you will go crazy. You have to be yourself and show yourself or no one will know who you are. If you try to fake who you are, any friends that you might make will not really be friends with you; they will be friends with who you aren't. Lastly, I'll leave you with this quote: '; Before I turned 20, I worried about what other people thought of me. When I reached my 40's, I didn't give a damn what other people thought of me. Finally, when I reached my 60's, I realized, nobody was thinking of me in the first place.'; You don't have to wait until you're that old to take these lessons to heart. What other people think of you has absolutely no effect on who you really are. Using their opinions is a terrible way to measure your self-worth. Bust out of your shell. Life is better out here. Start living. Take risks; it's a blast. Facing, and overcoming your fear is one of the best and most exciting feelings there is. Waste no time. Peace.
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Do you have one
um..just go to the libraray during ur lunch





and next semester talk to some new people in your new classes and sit lunch with them.
find friends who share ur intrest(iwus the same way then i started a video game club at my new skool amd made good frends


( i am aware of all my mistakes)
You are a beautiful person, no one knows it yet.





Being in the drama club helps alot.





If you have any skill in anything (like math or english) try and talk to other people that share your interests
Are you new to that school? Most of the time new people have trouble fitting in. I bet you have at least 5 classes a day, and there are around 20 people in each class so you should know at least 100 people (by ';know'; I mean you can recognize them and they can recognize you). So during lunch just walk over to one of them that you had a conversation or two and just ask, ';Can I sit with you guys?'; I am positive they'll say yes and then talk about anything, just anything: a movie you watched last, a fashion show, book etc.


Don't worry about those 'popular'; ones, they're just gonna end up bums in the street after hight school.





Good luck.
i hear you, during my highschool life i've bounced around schools and i'm really shy. For the first month at my last school i wished so desperately there was no lunch period because i would just walk around aimlessly through the grounds alone. i know exactly how you feel about not wanting to force your presence on them or make them feel sorry for you, when in reality you don't even want to hang out with them, just don't want to be alone. I finally got up the courage to make a little small talk with a group of guys i felt had the same interests as me. I walked up to the wall where they kick it at and said whatsup, introduced myself and asked a bit about them. They didn't really have the same ideas or ethics as me but they were cool and i hung out with them for the rest of the year. If they're cheerleaders i wouldn't waste your time with them, assuming they are the normal, stereotypical cheerleaders. I can tell from your writing you're intellegent and insightful and almost everyone in highschool is caught up in being popular. Vanity is their sin. My advice is to look for a group of girls that look like they have the same interests and values as you, muster up the courage and go sit with them. If you have classes with any of them, talk with them and see what they're like before you go and sit with them. It will help enormously if you have talked with one of them before you sit at their table so the rest of the table doesn't think you're a complete nobody. Whatever happens don't let them get you down. if you have any other questions i'd be glad to help you as i have been in the situation you are in and know how alienated you are feeling.





best of luck.
You got issues!Tuffn up and be your self who cares what other people think, stuff them!
i had the same problem,but eventually outgrew it ....u wont have to deal with these people forever...and you can eat lunch where you want to...
Sometimes i feel the sam way. don't worry. Things will work out. No offence, but you will find someone like you to hang out with. Thats what happened with me. Sorry with the teacher.
Oh im so sorry!!!


Well, what you can do is maybe sit somewhere more noticeable, such as the hallway or somewhere and someone will come sit by you. Also, if you know of any youth groups you can possibly go to a couple. Youth group kids seem to be more open to outsiders. Im an outsider at school most of the time, but at youth group, i have all my best friends. Try it.


I will pray that things turn out for you Chica.


God Bless!
you just need to open up more, sit w/ other ppl. make new friends.
Sweetie I understand being shy. I was terribly shy in school too. No one who knows me today would ever guess that! Trust me, I've learned the way to make a friend is to first make a connection, to make a connection you have to, ok here is the hard part, t-a-l-k to someone. Just kind of start a light conversation. Sometimes it's easiest if you ask a person a question. Not a yes or no question, but ask them their recommendation, opinion about something. Something and then listen, comment about what they have said so that they know you were paying attention. oh and look at them when your talking to them and while they are speaking to you. Don't look at your feet. Not making eye contact is rude. While your at it shoot them a smile add a joke or a giggle. After the question, thank them and if they don't ask you a question, say well I'll see you later and be on your way. Don't just stand there. Both of you will feel awkward. You have to speak to people ... make it a habit and practice where ever you go. Talk to the clerk at the grocery store, the 7-11, make a joke with one of your teachers, always wave and say hello to your neighbors, the more you do this the easier it gets, Trust me I know exactly the pain your feeling. It will get better.
I'm sorry I really do understand what u mean, I'm shy myself. If don't want 2 be there leave. The teacher can not force u 2 stay. Well try and be friends with the girls who invited u and don't like the other girls get 2 u. Your in a club that's so cool. Just start talking 2 some girls or ask when ur going a play if they want 2 work together.
i had this problem at the beginning of my freshman year. i started the 1st semester eating lunch in my english teachers class room. i broke out of this by making friends with people in my classes, and then just started eating lunch with them everyonce in a while, gradually increasing it to every day (but i also ate with 3 or 4 different groups)