I NEED MALE ADVICE!!I keep trying to keep these guys away but they only try harder!!?

I have trust issues and I don't like the idea of relationships. I think there's so much more to life. people are more stressed in relationships then they are without them and everyone always ends up breaking up then they do it all over again. I've decided to spend my life doing other things.


there are 3 guys I've been getting to know...trying to be friends with...but they want to take it further. we never hooked up or had sex or anything. one of them even followed me into the library after I flicked him off (he laughed and said I had ';fuq you'; written all over my face). he sat across from me and had his book upside down while he stared at me. I tried going to school in baggy sweatpants with my hair messy and that didn't work.


I am not interested in a relationship. I'm not pretending to be gay to keep them away. I don't know what to do.


How should I keep them away?


Why are they still trying to get with me if I've told them I don't want a boyfriend?


thanks, I appreciate the help!I NEED MALE ADVICE!!I keep trying to keep these guys away but they only try harder!!?
Well if you take this advise from a fellow guy... It really doesnt matter what you say to us (Guys) if someone really likes you they will only try harder to get you. Now when you tell guys your not interested... what goes through a guys mind is ';Now i have a chalenge... let me fix that'; so pretty much what im saying is. The more you try to confine yourself away from guys and a relationship (esspecially if they really like you) the harder they will try to get you. So try to go along with it than break his heart and he wont want to talk to you. Or if your not heart-less than try sitting down with them and telling them everything how you feel.I NEED MALE ADVICE!!I keep trying to keep these guys away but they only try harder!!?
Go look for a girl instead!!!





You must be a lesbian.
Give them a nice big slap on the face the next time they follow. They should get the message.
Sounds like your just attractive and its natural for guys to try. You also sound a bit young, because as you grow you will learn to appreciate relationships and all the beauty thats involved. Falling in love and heartbreak is apart of life, you cant avoid it forever...but if you want to stay single for now, thats just fine. Just tell the guys exactly how you feel and they will have no choice but to leave you alone eventually.





p.s...Men will ALWAYS try to get something they want. Im 25 and they've been trying HARD since I was 15, it never stops, men are animals that like to chase..lol. Just ignore them sweetie.
I don't know about the other two, but that other guy just sounds like a complete tool. Drop him as a friend all together. He clearly doesn't care about you as a person at all. Don't take that kind of crap from anyone. Even though you say you gave him the finger your attitude sounds like your too passive. Actually changing your look to deter people. Forget that all together. Truly stand up to yourself.


If it seems like someone truly likes you. Try to let them down lightly, but firmly. As for guys like the one you mentioned. Let em have it and if that doesn't work get some friends to deliver the message.


Most importantly at the beginning you state an obvious problem. You have trust issues. This is something you should really deal with.


Not all guys are just out to score. If your not interested in anyone, it's fine to be happy and content, but to down right dislike the idea of having any relationship shows some emotional distress signs.


If you find yourself liking a guy go for it, but let him no right off that you don't come easy and that the romance has to happen slow. If he understands you'll eventually be able to battle with whatever problems you have with intimacy. Also you may just not be a sexual person, but my guess is on the first one because of your hostility.


If the guy doesn't get it... well then you know right away he's an ***.
I must say, it sounds like the guys are taking your stonewalling the mas playing hard to get. If I were you I would sit them down and have a talk, just say that you dont want to lose your friendship with them and you just arent ready to take it to the next level. And i can persoanlly vouch for the fact that good guys do exist, my bf is the best person I have ever met.





Good luck