well me and my bf broke up a week ago but he dont wanna get back with me, but he dont like it when i act like his friend (when i dont make out with) the point is that i want him back, but he doesnt appreciate me anymore, i guess its cause i make things too easy for him so he thinks he could have me whenever he wants, i want to show him that thats not true, so im gonna try to avoid him for like a week or so specially since my b-day is coming up just to see if he would try to contact me or wat. wat else can i do that would make him have more interest in me, and well i dont wanna have sex with him if we not together becuz that would make me think that we going out, plz help, any ideas would be good. guys tell me wat would make u like ur girl even more, wat can i do???GUYS PLZZZZZ ANSWER thank u! i need some advice....?
look as pretty as you can and flirt or get together with other guysGUYS PLZZZZZ ANSWER thank u! i need some advice....?
you should try very hard to get him back . did you see that movie two can play that game??????????? well thats your answer. look girl tell him i love and i want you back .
why would you want someone back who treats you like crap.
quit wasting your time and move on. he obivously doesn't like you enough to respect you so you've already got your answer.
The best thing to do if you want him back is to make him jealous. Now he will throw a tantrum and try to make you feel guilty, but act the part and he'll come crawling back.
Darling...its not up to you (or us for that matter) to make him care more for you if it is not his honest desire. Your question statement suggest that he does not. It seem as thought he uses you for his benefit. You yourself already sense that. Avoiding him for a week or so will accomplish very little except give him more time to do his thing. He knows that whenever he decide to be sweet to you he will get what he want.
Now is the time to start being good to yourself and not leave it up to him (or anybody else for that matter). There will be some pain involved but you must regain your dignity and resolve yourself to not be taken advantage of regardless of whatever.
trust me, all guys like their ex's after they break up. if they dont, they never did. avoiding him would be a good experiment.
If he doesn't want to get back with you and only wants to have sex with you, then you should move on. Let him go and don't try to make him like you more. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't. He has his reasons why he doesn't and if you keep throwing yourself at him like that, then he will never come back to you. Perhaps, in his own time, he will realize how much he misses you and will want to try to work things out and get back together. But don't wait for that. Just let him go and move on.
that relationship is over hunny life goes on more fish in the sea now u know for next time
With so many fish in the sea you pick a flounder and now you want to dangle him..wow!! i'm glad he is not me. What you are doing is so typical of a what a girl would do. Be a woman and start acting like one..have some class and be ontop your game not by playing little girl games... but by telling him what you think and if he doesn't respect your feelings then let it go and move on..geeeeeezzzzz!!!
you can't make someone love you....but you can try:
-ignoring him (don't call, write, or email) but if he does, be sweet and charming.
-move on and meet someone better
Joy to you!!!
i think u should just try and be flirty with him and talk to some of his friends and all that good stuff. then maybe flirt with some of his friends if that doesnt work then he'll get ujealous and ask yooh out so give him another chance and then show him hoos boss!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Guys please would you help? i need some advice?
so i just got out of a relationship and i am a decent looking girl (see for yourself) but i never really seem to attract guys. my last boyfriend told me that he really had to get some courage to ask me out bc he said i looked way too intimidating. so what should i do to come off as more approachable?
pictures of myself
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http://s74.photobucket.com/albums/i277/C鈥?/a>Guys please would you help? i need some advice?
Nope :) I think you seem approachable
Just some girls give off different vibes
Like the girl in my question, she seems really shy, insecure, but when you know her shes funny, caring, cute, just maybe i was a little naive
But i think you look fine, nothing to change :)Guys please would you help? i need some advice?
I don't know but maybe you should be the one that asks the guys out. Don't be so old fashion and wait for them to come to you.
you don't look intimidating at all, you are very approachable, i wouldn't worry about it
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http://s74.photobucket.com/albums/i277/C鈥?/a>Guys please would you help? i need some advice?
Nope :) I think you seem approachable
Just some girls give off different vibes
Like the girl in my question, she seems really shy, insecure, but when you know her shes funny, caring, cute, just maybe i was a little naive
But i think you look fine, nothing to change :)Guys please would you help? i need some advice?
I don't know but maybe you should be the one that asks the guys out. Don't be so old fashion and wait for them to come to you.
you don't look intimidating at all, you are very approachable, i wouldn't worry about it
Guys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
i'm in this wonderful relationship with a guy who loves me dearly. however we have been through the worst and best times. but we made it. right now i'm waitin to see if he is goin to marry me because he proposed sometime back and has not yet givin me a date nor a ring.
there are little things though that i may be reading too much into like him chattin with certain ppl however i dont want to make too much of it. what you think i should do i DONT want to nag i want to remain cool becuasei know he loves me. but u know we women can be impatient.
as a guy what do you recommend i do? should i just leave him let him come around on his own timing. stop naggin or bring u things
tell me as guys what you all would like from a woman in my position. its been 9 monthGuys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
9 months is tough to say on. I'm not sure if it's 9 months you've been dating or since he proposed to you. Either way, it's really not that long of a period of time. I believe that if your relationship is good and you have no other complaints, you should not worry too much about it. He may be waiting to be in a little better financial position before he's ready for marriage. There are several reasons for a long engagement. If it really bothers you and you'd like a time frame, ask him. Don't tell him you're itching to get married because you don't want to pressure him. But, ask if he's thought about an approximate time frame for the 2 of you to be married. He may just be waiting for your sign that you're ready. Good LuckGuys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
If there has been an engagement proposed to you, then there should be talk about setting a wedding date. And the engagement ring, although not always necessary, is a strong indicator that the proposal was made in good faith and marriage is at least on the horizon. Without a date or a ring, the proposal sounds pretty empty or hollow to me. I'd start pushing for both if I were you to see if this guy is really sincere.
Years ago, my wife and I had been dating for nearly two years. She sat me down and said ';I need to know where this relationship is going. I need to know if I'm investing my time in someone else's husband.'; I got the hint and made the commitment I had been putting-off, though I knew I wanted.
I personally like honesty!!! Tell him how you feel,just like you just told me!!! If he REALLY,TRULY LOVES YOU!!!! He will open up and tell you why he hasnt moved ahead on this!!! Perhaps it is a money issue,or???? If he doesnt have an answer for you??? Then perhaps he just isnt good enough for you!!! You need to have a guy treat you LIKE YOU ARE A PRINCESS TO THEM!!!!! Dont settle for less!!! You should be number one in their life%26amp;heart!!!!
Racerx2 said it. You need to sit him down and have a come to Jesus meeting with him.acne treatment
there are little things though that i may be reading too much into like him chattin with certain ppl however i dont want to make too much of it. what you think i should do i DONT want to nag i want to remain cool becuasei know he loves me. but u know we women can be impatient.
as a guy what do you recommend i do? should i just leave him let him come around on his own timing. stop naggin or bring u things
tell me as guys what you all would like from a woman in my position. its been 9 monthGuys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
9 months is tough to say on. I'm not sure if it's 9 months you've been dating or since he proposed to you. Either way, it's really not that long of a period of time. I believe that if your relationship is good and you have no other complaints, you should not worry too much about it. He may be waiting to be in a little better financial position before he's ready for marriage. There are several reasons for a long engagement. If it really bothers you and you'd like a time frame, ask him. Don't tell him you're itching to get married because you don't want to pressure him. But, ask if he's thought about an approximate time frame for the 2 of you to be married. He may just be waiting for your sign that you're ready. Good LuckGuys this one is for u!!! need your advice.?
If there has been an engagement proposed to you, then there should be talk about setting a wedding date. And the engagement ring, although not always necessary, is a strong indicator that the proposal was made in good faith and marriage is at least on the horizon. Without a date or a ring, the proposal sounds pretty empty or hollow to me. I'd start pushing for both if I were you to see if this guy is really sincere.
Years ago, my wife and I had been dating for nearly two years. She sat me down and said ';I need to know where this relationship is going. I need to know if I'm investing my time in someone else's husband.'; I got the hint and made the commitment I had been putting-off, though I knew I wanted.
I personally like honesty!!! Tell him how you feel,just like you just told me!!! If he REALLY,TRULY LOVES YOU!!!! He will open up and tell you why he hasnt moved ahead on this!!! Perhaps it is a money issue,or???? If he doesnt have an answer for you??? Then perhaps he just isnt good enough for you!!! You need to have a guy treat you LIKE YOU ARE A PRINCESS TO THEM!!!!! Dont settle for less!!! You should be number one in their life%26amp;heart!!!!
Racerx2 said it. You need to sit him down and have a come to Jesus meeting with him.
Guys and girls help me!!! please i need advice?
i have been broken up with my ex for over a month now! i have talked to him EVERYDAY since our break up! he calls and i call so i am not clingy or anything! we broke up because of money because i didn't give that much! i am still giving money but i have stopped! 3 weeks ago i gave him my camera to borrow because he had to take family pictures and now he says he wants $350 from me or else he wont give me my camera and he might sell it and when i told no i wont give it to you he said (**** you, your so full of ****, shut the **** up, he yelled at me SO much all of my neighbors heard me, he kicked me out of his car, and he took off) i just want to know how to get my camera back! and should i stop talking to him?
the reason y i want my camera its because it means so much to me a gift from my dad!
the reason y i help him with money because i feel like i have to! (the whole year i dated him i payed for his everything and i feel like i have to take care of him)
the reason y i talk to him now is because i dont know how to stop!Guys and girls help me!!! please i need advice?
First of all I'd go straight to the police and report that your camera has been stolen and that you know where it is. And who has it.
If %26amp; when you get your camera back, close all ties with this loser. It might be verbal abuse now, but will it get physical?
Stay away from him and don't give him anymore money. What you earn is yours, not his.
Males like that need to be on the receiving end of another male. No one, male or female has the right to boss anyone around.
Good luck with you're camera.Guys and girls help me!!! please i need advice?
girl you need to call the cops to have them go get your camera for you, never answer his calls again and never ever get in contact with someone like that! im in shock you even payed for him that long! you were way to generous and this of it this way, the next girl he dates, you should feel bad for because he just sounds like a loser and kicking you out of the car? your better off without someone like that!!
the reason y i want my camera its because it means so much to me a gift from my dad!
the reason y i help him with money because i feel like i have to! (the whole year i dated him i payed for his everything and i feel like i have to take care of him)
the reason y i talk to him now is because i dont know how to stop!Guys and girls help me!!! please i need advice?
First of all I'd go straight to the police and report that your camera has been stolen and that you know where it is. And who has it.
If %26amp; when you get your camera back, close all ties with this loser. It might be verbal abuse now, but will it get physical?
Stay away from him and don't give him anymore money. What you earn is yours, not his.
Males like that need to be on the receiving end of another male. No one, male or female has the right to boss anyone around.
Good luck with you're camera.Guys and girls help me!!! please i need advice?
girl you need to call the cops to have them go get your camera for you, never answer his calls again and never ever get in contact with someone like that! im in shock you even payed for him that long! you were way to generous and this of it this way, the next girl he dates, you should feel bad for because he just sounds like a loser and kicking you out of the car? your better off without someone like that!!
Guys please help me!!I really need some advice about my bf!!?
Ok so I'm 19 and I've been with this great guy for almost 3years.
My problem is that hes away alot for work and, as I used to work with him I know that there are alot of sexy women around him all the time.
They are constantly all over him because hes gorgous and very sexy!
The thing is I'm afraid that he is going to lose interest in me with them around.
I have a very simple plain style but I think i should change it up a bit.Please look at the pics and tell me what you think about this.
I need any tips on how to spice up my looks,keep his attention and make sure he doesen't forget about me while hes away.
He is 23 btw.
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http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff106鈥?/a>Guys please help me!!I really need some advice about my bf!!?
You look pretty cute to me. Don't do too much, maybe a bit of make up and hope you smile more than those three pics. If you got nice boobs, that helps too.lolGuys please help me!!I really need some advice about my bf!!?
First of all, don't let him know you're uncomfortable with the fact that he's surrounded by alot of sexy women at work. When a guy knows that your self esteem or confidence is going down, you appear less attractive to him. Nothing is more sexy than a confident woman. I looked at your pictures, and you are right. Your style is very plain, but at the same time, you're still naturally pretty. You should wear a little make-up. Wear mascara and curl your lashes, it really makes your eyes stand out. Make sure you wear lip gloss too. Eyes and lips are very important...you should also wear your hair down more often. Good luck with everything. Then again, you two have been together for three years, I hope the trust factor between the both of you are strong by now.
stop worrying about it .......if he likes you you'll know it
My problem is that hes away alot for work and, as I used to work with him I know that there are alot of sexy women around him all the time.
They are constantly all over him because hes gorgous and very sexy!
The thing is I'm afraid that he is going to lose interest in me with them around.
I have a very simple plain style but I think i should change it up a bit.Please look at the pics and tell me what you think about this.
I need any tips on how to spice up my looks,keep his attention and make sure he doesen't forget about me while hes away.
He is 23 btw.
http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff106鈥?/a>
http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff106鈥?/a>
http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff106鈥?/a>Guys please help me!!I really need some advice about my bf!!?
You look pretty cute to me. Don't do too much, maybe a bit of make up and hope you smile more than those three pics. If you got nice boobs, that helps too.lolGuys please help me!!I really need some advice about my bf!!?
First of all, don't let him know you're uncomfortable with the fact that he's surrounded by alot of sexy women at work. When a guy knows that your self esteem or confidence is going down, you appear less attractive to him. Nothing is more sexy than a confident woman. I looked at your pictures, and you are right. Your style is very plain, but at the same time, you're still naturally pretty. You should wear a little make-up. Wear mascara and curl your lashes, it really makes your eyes stand out. Make sure you wear lip gloss too. Eyes and lips are very important...you should also wear your hair down more often. Good luck with everything. Then again, you two have been together for three years, I hope the trust factor between the both of you are strong by now.
stop worrying about it .......if he likes you you'll know it
Guys! Im a virgin and I need some advice?
Im saving myself for the right one. but are there actually even guys that will even care about this? I really want to do it sometimes... more like all the time... I am 20 yrs old. but I just cant help but think, should I even wait? I keep having this fantasy that there is a guy that will care about me the way that I always end up caring about them. and then I find out that they dont want me bc I dont have sex with them. maybe I should just do it. :/Guys! Im a virgin and I need some advice?
Do it whenever YOU are ready. (It doesn't mean wait until marriage)Guys! Im a virgin and I need some advice?
oh god yes guys care! Don't you dare give it away because when you do, that guy will probably come into your life. I'm in the same boat as you actually. I'm 27 now and still a virgin =(. I wouldn't consider anyone who wasn't one herself either. Don't you dare do something you will regret.
Feel free to contact me if you need advice.
NO, wait for that someone special that you love and you just can't imagine NOT doing it with him!
(notice I didn't say wait for marriage) BUT make sure the person is the right person and that the location is perfect BECAUSE you only have one first time!
im 24 and married i got married when i was 19 and my now wife was a virgin when i met her and i really care for her cause she was also waiting for the right guy and i came along so their are guys that care believe it or not so just stay virgin and let the guys break up with u if its all they want and for needs i dont know im not a woman but ask a lady or something good luck with ur decision
hey! i'm 20 years old and i'm a virgin too... only i'm waiting for marriage.. you've come this far girl.... why not just keep waiting!!! it will be so much better and more special if you first time is on your wedding night. it will be more fulfilling! i can't wait until my wedding night!!! lol
I am a 21 year old virgin, and I am waiting for the RIGHT guy too (not for marriage necessarily). I am just learning not to live in fantasy land about a dream guy. By fantasizing about the dream guy, you are setting yourself up for near failure. You are looking for this perfect gentlemen and wanting him to live to all of these standards and expectations that you have dreamed up. I think it is better to just feel confident in the fact that eventually you will find him. Have your standards but fantasizing makes you delusional to reality and makes it harder to find Mr. Right.
Yes waiting is a *****, but I think when the right guy comes along, he is going to appreciate it.
I know I'm not a guy, but I don't think you should do it just because of fear of a guy not wanting you because of it. if that is the case, then they are definitely the wrong guy. there are guys out there who care about that. A friend of mine saved herself for marriage, and didn't get married until she was 30! but her now husband didn't mind, and they've been together for 7 years. he waited for her, and the right one will wait for you.
dont wait for the right guy he will come along eventually, you just have to be patient....i plan on waiting for the right one too even though im a guy, trust me you will find someone who will see you for you and not just some sex object.
Honey, yes there are guys out there who are willing to wait. And when you find him imagine how much more special it will be to you. If guys don't like you because of that, then you know they only wanted you for one thing. Stick to your guns!
you shouldn't do it for them you should do it with the guy you love. Don't let them pressure you into it do it when you're ready and the time is right.
Do it whenever YOU are ready. (It doesn't mean wait until marriage)Guys! Im a virgin and I need some advice?
oh god yes guys care! Don't you dare give it away because when you do, that guy will probably come into your life. I'm in the same boat as you actually. I'm 27 now and still a virgin =(. I wouldn't consider anyone who wasn't one herself either. Don't you dare do something you will regret.
Feel free to contact me if you need advice.
NO, wait for that someone special that you love and you just can't imagine NOT doing it with him!
(notice I didn't say wait for marriage) BUT make sure the person is the right person and that the location is perfect BECAUSE you only have one first time!
im 24 and married i got married when i was 19 and my now wife was a virgin when i met her and i really care for her cause she was also waiting for the right guy and i came along so their are guys that care believe it or not so just stay virgin and let the guys break up with u if its all they want and for needs i dont know im not a woman but ask a lady or something good luck with ur decision
hey! i'm 20 years old and i'm a virgin too... only i'm waiting for marriage.. you've come this far girl.... why not just keep waiting!!! it will be so much better and more special if you first time is on your wedding night. it will be more fulfilling! i can't wait until my wedding night!!! lol
I am a 21 year old virgin, and I am waiting for the RIGHT guy too (not for marriage necessarily). I am just learning not to live in fantasy land about a dream guy. By fantasizing about the dream guy, you are setting yourself up for near failure. You are looking for this perfect gentlemen and wanting him to live to all of these standards and expectations that you have dreamed up. I think it is better to just feel confident in the fact that eventually you will find him. Have your standards but fantasizing makes you delusional to reality and makes it harder to find Mr. Right.
Yes waiting is a *****, but I think when the right guy comes along, he is going to appreciate it.
I know I'm not a guy, but I don't think you should do it just because of fear of a guy not wanting you because of it. if that is the case, then they are definitely the wrong guy. there are guys out there who care about that. A friend of mine saved herself for marriage, and didn't get married until she was 30! but her now husband didn't mind, and they've been together for 7 years. he waited for her, and the right one will wait for you.
dont wait for the right guy he will come along eventually, you just have to be patient....i plan on waiting for the right one too even though im a guy, trust me you will find someone who will see you for you and not just some sex object.
Honey, yes there are guys out there who are willing to wait. And when you find him imagine how much more special it will be to you. If guys don't like you because of that, then you know they only wanted you for one thing. Stick to your guns!
you shouldn't do it for them you should do it with the guy you love. Don't let them pressure you into it do it when you're ready and the time is right.
Guys 20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
Okay theres this complicated guy- moody/kind-hearted. Old school. emotional baggage from past relationships. Hides his feelings. Bit of a heartbreaker . He's older
He's a fam friend. Since last year we got really close. Ppl said he liked me alot- but since he didnt openly ask me out- i blocked it. i was scared i was falling for him ( first time) and blocked him and told someone i would never date him cos of his past and his way with women.( i was in denial) He got hurt when he heard that. I know. The gap bet us widened. Huge now we hardly ever speak besides hi and walk past. It works both ways. I pushed him into the arms of another girl ( they not dating) i think im may be losing him for good. I need to move on.but i think the ONLY way i can do this is to talk to him. Havnt spoken to him in 3 months . i think he hates me after what i said.. We never spke about it- except emailGuys 20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
being a mature 17, id say just speak your mind. whats on it, how you would want things to end up, how u don't want them to end up, state why you did the things you did, and be sincere. just be honest about everything you say, don't be flirty just put your meaning across and see how he takes it, also try and keep everything to a point, if you trail off and put too much info, he may pick up diff messages lol =] good luck.Guys 20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
Yes to all, tell him how you feel, as i reckon he'd feel the same. Dont lose this oppurtunity to lay it all on the line. Whats the worst that could happen, he turns you down, who cares you can get over that. But what if this turns out to be the person you are meant to grow old with?
CARPE DIEM!!!!!!! (latin for seize the day/moment)
good luck with this!
Tell him how you feel about him ( you can never go wrong doing that)
Sounds like you feel the same way about him that all the other girls do.
A little, but it sounds like you got some issues you need to work out.
A little. Leave it.
live ur dreams
You didnt say **** for 3 months, now you wanna talk about every single thing in a one meeting conversation? What are you hoping to accomplish? He's about to start dating another girl, his mind is totally elsewhere-- and soon as doing his own thing now all of a sudden you got something to say? What, are you trying to get him to drop his plans and start a new life on this new found affirmation from you? Like he's gonna go '; What, really!! Gee.'; C'mon now sweetheart, get real.
in my opinion i would keep being open with him thats the only way that you will find out if u putting your all into him means that he wants to put his all into you...if not you know that you dont need to put anymore of ur valuable time into him and find someone who will put equal time into you as you are them...
hope i helped a lil
20 Yr. Old Italian
He's a fam friend. Since last year we got really close. Ppl said he liked me alot- but since he didnt openly ask me out- i blocked it. i was scared i was falling for him ( first time) and blocked him and told someone i would never date him cos of his past and his way with women.( i was in denial) He got hurt when he heard that. I know. The gap bet us widened. Huge now we hardly ever speak besides hi and walk past. It works both ways. I pushed him into the arms of another girl ( they not dating) i think im may be losing him for good. I need to move on.but i think the ONLY way i can do this is to talk to him. Havnt spoken to him in 3 months . i think he hates me after what i said.. We never spke about it- except emailGuys 20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
being a mature 17, id say just speak your mind. whats on it, how you would want things to end up, how u don't want them to end up, state why you did the things you did, and be sincere. just be honest about everything you say, don't be flirty just put your meaning across and see how he takes it, also try and keep everything to a point, if you trail off and put too much info, he may pick up diff messages lol =] good luck.Guys 20/over- need your perspective/advice on this situation- ....Please?
Yes to all, tell him how you feel, as i reckon he'd feel the same. Dont lose this oppurtunity to lay it all on the line. Whats the worst that could happen, he turns you down, who cares you can get over that. But what if this turns out to be the person you are meant to grow old with?
CARPE DIEM!!!!!!! (latin for seize the day/moment)
good luck with this!
Tell him how you feel about him ( you can never go wrong doing that)
Sounds like you feel the same way about him that all the other girls do.
A little, but it sounds like you got some issues you need to work out.
A little. Leave it.
live ur dreams
You didnt say **** for 3 months, now you wanna talk about every single thing in a one meeting conversation? What are you hoping to accomplish? He's about to start dating another girl, his mind is totally elsewhere-- and soon as doing his own thing now all of a sudden you got something to say? What, are you trying to get him to drop his plans and start a new life on this new found affirmation from you? Like he's gonna go '; What, really!! Gee.'; C'mon now sweetheart, get real.
in my opinion i would keep being open with him thats the only way that you will find out if u putting your all into him means that he wants to put his all into you...if not you know that you dont need to put anymore of ur valuable time into him and find someone who will put equal time into you as you are them...
hope i helped a lil
20 Yr. Old Italian
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